As a new mother, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of caring for a newborn. The constant demands can leave you feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and isolated. But it’s crucial to remember that prioritizing self-care isn’t selfish; it’s essential for your wellbeing and the wellbeing of your family.
“Just because you become a mother, it doesn’t mean you lose who you are.” — Beyoncé
The Importance of Self-Care
Self-care isn’t just about pampering yourself. It’s about taking steps to nourish your mind, body, and soul. By prioritizing self-care, you’re better equipped to handle the challenges of motherhood and build a strong foundation for your family.
“Taking care of yourself doesn’t mean me first, it means me too.” ― L.R. Knost
Practical Tips for Self-Care
Here are some practical tips to help you incorporate self-care into your daily routine:
Prioritize Care for You
We can’t run on empty. If self-care is not a non-negotiable, make it a priority today.
Eat a balanced diet and stay hydrated, engage in regular physical activity, even if it’s just a short walk.
Schedule breaks or time-off to yourself, e.g. taking a 15 min walk while your partner or a trusted family member looks after your child.
Practice Mindfulness
Take time to relax and de-stress through meditation or deep breathing exercises.
Enhance your support system
If you’re in a marriage with a supportive partner, it’s also helpful for them to co-lead in your parenting roles – so that you can take a break, mentally. Especially if you’re working too.
Co-create space to discuss and address differences in views and values especially in parenting.
Seek Professional Help
Don’t hesitate to seek support when needed. If you notice changes in your mood, thoughts, or behaviours, consider consulting a mental health professional.
Therapy can be a powerful tool for self-care, helping you develop coping mechanisms, improve communication skills, reduce stress, and gain valuable insights.
Seeking therapy isn’t a sign of weakness nor an indulgence. In fact, it demonstrates strength in you to recognise that things will be better with additional support.
Embrace the temporary nature of this transition
With a new family member, there’s bound to be a shift in your lifestyle. It’s okay to feel a sense of loss as you adjust to your new role as a parent.
Allow yourself time to grieve the past and embrace the present. You’ll eventually find a balance that works for you and your family.
Breaking Generational Cycles
Many of us have grown up in families where self-sacrifice was the norm. It’s important to break this cycle and teach our children the importance of self-care. In modeling healthy self-care behaviors, we can help our children develop their own self-worth and resilience.
Supporting New Mums
If you know a new mum, offer your support in practical ways. Help with household chores, childcare, or simply listen to her worries and concerns. A little kindness can go a long way in helping a new mum feel less overwhelmed.
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It’s okay to talk about your challenges, feelings and thoughts in a trusted space. It’s okay to rest.
As parents, we have the power to break the cycle. When we learn to put ourselves first, we show our children the importance of seeking help and nurturing their own wellbeing.
If you’re struggling with the demands of motherhood, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support group.
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Written by Corrine Lin, Psychotherapist. If you require support to navigate the challenges of parenthood, click or scan the QR code below to connect with Corrine!
